Do you ever wish your nervousness would just go away???

Lots of Coaches and Holistic Practitioners beat themselves up for feeling nervous.   They don’t want anyone to see how nervous they actually feel, because that would make them look like an amateur.

They don’t look for speaking engagements and they don’t talk to people about their business. They hide.   

Or, if you do venture out of your safe home to promote your business, you tell yourself, “Calm down; take a deep breath; ground yourself…”

But the damn nervousness won’t go away. 

So you STUFF it down.

And wonder if they can tell that you’re nervous... 

They can.  They see right through your confident mask and become bored by who you are pretending to be. 

Fortunately, there is a way to handle your nervousness… 

A way that will make you both endearing and respectable to your potential clients.

Use our simple, 3-step system to get over your nervousness.

Step 1. Embrace your nervousness.

When you feel nervous, it means that what you are about to do is IMPORTANT enough for you to care deeply about it.

Being nervous is a GOOD thing!

This morning, we begin our second event of the Six-Figure Speaker Program. 

I feel excited and nervous.  You might be thinking, “After leading nearly 200 live events, haven’t you gotten rid of your nervousness?”

No!!!  I believe that the day I stop getting nervous before our events should be the day I quit (or at least get a really good massage, so I can reacquaint myself with my body and my emotions).  

Being nervous means I REALLY care how this event goes. 

And I’d better care…there are people flying from all over the country to attend who have collectively invested hundreds of thousands of dollars to be in the room.

But if that wasn’t enough pressure, there is my own internal pressure. 

I REALLY want this to be the best event of this kind that I have ever led. 

This is my “Olympics” and I want these four days to be the most powerful, life-changing four days they can possibly be. 

So know your nervousness means you care deeply about what you’re about to do and we recommend you embrace it.

Step 2: Allow your nervousness to make you BIGGER.

Most people stuff down their nervousness, which makes them feel smaller. 

Breathe into your nervousness and let the juicy sensations fill your body with life and expand your energy.

The bigger your energy is, the more people you can impact. 

Step 3. Share your nervousness.

Your nervousness is endearing.  Hiding your nervousness is robbing your people of you. 

Sharing your nervousness (along with your expertise) makes you lovable. 

At a recent Client Attraction Summit, I found feeling myself more nervous than usual. 
So I told the group I was feeling nervous. 

But here’s the key:
You don’t want to share your nervousness in a way that has people feel sorry for you. 
In this case, I didn’t want all the mothers in the room coming up on stage to give me a hug and tell me, “There, there, it will be okay.” 

So it’s important to share your nervousness in a way that still positions you as the expert. 

I said something like:
“Even though I’ve led this event more than 70 times, and COUNTLESS people have told me that this event has changed their life, I am still feeling nervous.” 

As soon as I said that, my nervousness stopped distracting me and my energy went to a whole new level. 

If you haven’t led your event 70 times and you don’t have countless success stories and testimonials, you can still use this “Even Though” Template to maintain a position of respect. 

For example, you could say:
“Even though what I am about to share with you are teachings that I have personally experienced and refined over the last 20 years, I still feel nervous about sharing them with you.”

The bottom line is that your nervousness, if harnessed powerfully, holds the key to you becoming an even more inspiring leader.

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Have you ever had one of those days where you just want to collapse? 

Where everything seems REALLY hard and REALLY big...
And you feel really weak and small?

Where everything inside of you is screaming to just give up? 
And you would do anything to release the pressure?

Sometimes people think that once you "make it," it's all roses and puppy dogs, LOL. 

But the truth is that no matter how successful any of us are, our lives are designed to give us all the challenges we need to grow.

Over the last 10 years, we've made millions of dollars and taught over 25,000 coaches and holistic practitioners how to get more clients.   We've had hundreds of JV partners, team members, and vendors.  And we also have two boys under 5.

LOTS of opportunities for breakdowns! LOL.

You better believe that there have been days where we just wanted to throw in the towel...

When giving in to our desire to collapse seemed like sweet freedom...

When every cell in our body CRAVED the release of all of the responsibility and pressure we felt.

In the early days of our business, when things became too intense, my (Jesse's) body would literally collapse.  My neck would lock up.  I wouldn't be able to move it for days.

It was terrifying.

But it was also freeing.  When my neck locked up, I gave myself permission to take the pressure off.  I didn't have to prove that I was "the man" anymore.

Yet I knew that there had to be another way to take the pressure off of myself.

So I attended a live event.  The speaker led me through a powerful breakthrough exercise and gave me a new name: "Uncollapsable." 

This new name gave me a new window into my Spirit.  Since then, NOTHING has taken me out.  And, it has felt SO good to know that I am Uncollapsable.

But lately, I have discovered a new problem.  Our life has become SO good that I sometimes find myself terrified that I could F*#$ everything up and that we would lose everything.  Our home, our cars, our team, our gourmet lifestyle.  Gone.

Will Smith once told Oprah, in an interview that he is "just as financially nervous right now as he was 20 years ago."
He shared that he has a "poor person's mentality" that he is trying to shake.

I get it.

This last week has been especially challenging for us. I wanted to collapse.  I wanted to not care.  I wanted to say,  "To HELL with everything." 

Fortunately, I had an insight.

What if, instead of collapsing,  I SURRENDERED my life to the Highest Good?

One of Sharla's spiritual mentors, Cheri Huber says, "Worry is not preparation."
So, instead of worrying, I breathed in the gratitude I have for the amazing life that Sharla and I have created.

And on my outbreath, I released our amazing life to the Highest Good.

Today, the challenges in our business are still here.  But I feel bigger than the challenges.  And I feel free.

I invite you to presence an area in your life where you feel a lot of pressure. (If you can't find one, it's time to play a BIGGER game!J)

Try this simple practice now. 

Breathe in Gratitude.  (For one thing that is amazing in your life.)
Breathe out Surrender. (Surrender this one amazing thing to the Highest Good.)
Breathe in gratitude.  Breathe out surrender.

Do this 10 times. 
How do you feel now?

Jesse

PS. There is a real down-side to collapsing.  If your life was a movie, would you want to step into the hero's shoes who had just collapsed? 

Would you want to pick up the pieces and deal with the mess?

Luckily, there is another way.  Breathe in gratitude.  Breathe out Surrender. 
Surrender is so sweet.  And it allows you to be the man or woman you've
always known you could be.

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