April 6, 2017 by Jesse Koren

The Question That Changed My Life…

Twelve years ago, I found my calling to be a Professional Coach. It was like coming home.

I felt like my whole life was secretly designed to make me a world-class coach.
The struggles with food, with alcohol, with my body…

They led me to travel the country by Greyhound Bus, living in eleven different intentional communities.

I tried every healing modality I could get my hands on.

My commitment for healing was SO strong, I was able to dig my way out of the madness without medication or drugs.

Breakthrough1By the time I found coaching, I had healed most of my major challenges and I was HUNGRY to help other people heal theirs.

I tried for almost 2 years. I didn't get One. Single. Paying. Client.
I just couldn’t get anyone to say yes to paying me.

I did lots of free coaching. And I worked all kinds of odd jobs to pay the bills.

Until one day I just couldn’t take it anymore.

I buried my dream of serving thousands of people and got a full-time J-O-B.

Finally, I had security… a nice paycheck every 2 weeks.
It was AWESOME... for the first 3 days.

But with each day that crept by, I felt an insatiable emptiness grow in the pit of my belly.

I had to fill this void with something, right?
Well, luckily, my co-workers always stocked up on sugary treats.

The temptation of those delectable cookies called out to me every minute I was at work, until I succumbed and let them fill me up.

Aaahhh… the sweet feeling of sugar, rushing through my veins.
Minutes later, I felt awful so I went back for another sugar hit.

By the time 5pm came along, I hardly had the energy to drive home.

Jesse and Sharla the year they went from 0-$175,000

Jesse and Sharla the year
we went from 0-$175,000

One morning (after eleven LONG months), I asked myself a question:
"Could I live with myself if I was doing this 5 years from now?"
"HELL NO!!!" was the answer.

I wanted to be married with kids, having impacted thousands of people.

"How about one year from now?"
"Absolutely NOT!!!!!!"

That’s when I knew I had to give my dream another chance.

The moment I re-committed to my business, chocolate chip cookies lost their power over me.

I was exhilarated. And I knew I was going to succeed this time because I had watched Sharla get business coaching and fill her schedule with clients.
I KNEW how she did it, and I KNEW I could do it too.

So, I used my life savings to invest in some expensive business trainings and in less than one month I had enough clients to quit my J-O-B.

Then Sharla and I joined forces and in our first year together we made $175,000.

Jesse and Sharla during one of our recent live events

We’ve gone on to teach over 50,000 Coaches and Holistic Practitioners our signature “Heartselling™” system.

But what we’re most proud of is that our clients have earned over $100 Million Dollars collectively (which means that LOTS of their clients are getting the healing and empowerment they need).

And it all came from asking myself this question:
"Could I live with myself if I was doing this 5 years from now?"

Now it’s your turn…
Could you live with yourself if your life didn’t change much in the next 5 years?

If your answer is “No” or “HELL NO,” then I encourage you to make a bold decision to make 2017 your breakthrough year…

So, that when you look back at your life 5 years from now, you’ll see this year as the year that changed everything.

Are you with us? If so, leave a comment and tell us what this year is about for you.

Tell us what you think...

September 16, 2015 by Jesse Koren

YIKES! My Pants Split Open on Stage

A couple of years ago, we led our Client Attraction Summit.

I (Jesse) had spent many hours the week before the event, praying for avalanches of abundance to flow to the entire Thrive Community. So when I stepped on stage on Friday morning, even though I had only gotten 4 hours of sleep, I was on fire.

By Sunday morning, our attendees are literally glowing. It’s about 11:00am. The song Good Feeling by Flo Rida is blasting from the speakers and I am in my element, dancing solo on stage with a group of about 200 Coaches and Holistic Practitioners dancing with me.

I try a slightly crazy move... and suddenly I feel the back of my pants go RIPPPPPP!!!! The confident smile on my face turns to shock.

I slide my hand over the back of my pants and yep... my black boxer briefs are now visible.

But the music is loud, so nobody heard the rip. And there’s no one behind me, so no one can see it...

So I’ll just keep dancing... And as long as I never turn my back to the group, I’ll be fine.

I end the dancing with a 1, 2, 3, YES!

And everyone takes a seat. I think about putting the group into a partner share so that I can run up to my room to change...

But I am more committed to staying on time and delivering on the Q&A session and so I decide to change my pants later.

As I answer the questions, I remind myself often to face the group at ALL times.

Then a woman shares something very courageous and also very dark about her past. The light-hearted exhilaration in the room turns into a dark, foreboding cloud.

I ask the group if they want me to keep going with content or to switch directions and help this woman have a breakthrough in this area that had been holding her hostage for the last 18 years (and would continue to keep her from attracting clients).

They vote for the breakthrough.

So I bring her on stage and step into my "Breakthrough Coaching Zone."

When I enter this Zone, I lose all self-consciousness and show up fully in service to the woman on stage as well as the entire group.

I start by asking her to reveal something that she had not shared publicly in years: her arms had scars on them from the incident 18 years ago.

She reluctantly takes off her long sleeve shirt to reveal her beautifully scarred arms. The group greets her with love and applause.

I guide her to a place of self-love and forgiveness and invite her to dance slowly as she holds herself in an embrace of self-love.

I can tell that she is still incredibly self-conscious. So I step to the side and invite some women who are moved by her story to come up on stage and literally hold her as they massage her with unconditional love.

She starts sobbing uncontrollably as she feels the love and tenderness of these angelic women. The healing has begun.

After several minutes of healing, one of our team members, Erin Delaney, walks on stage and whispers in my ear, "Your pants are torn at the butt.”

I whisper back, “I know.” And, then it dawns on me. I was no longer facing the group. The whole right side of the room had seen my butt.

Luckily, I am in my Breakthrough Coaching Zone, where I feel like Superman. So instead of getting embarrassed, I ask, "God/Universe, how do you want to use me now?"

Then it comes to me.

It is time for the group of angelic women to step back and make space for this woman to take back her power.

But I know that for her to truly embrace her body without self-consciousness, she is going to need me to lead by example.

So, I face the group and said: “Yesterday, I was talking with a woman who shared with me how well my pants fit. Well, I realize now, that perhaps my pants fit a little too well... When I was dancing earlier, my pants ripped really bad. But, it’s perfect, because if I am going to ask you to be as vulnerable as to share your arms with all of us, I better be willing to be just as vulnerable. So, here goes...”

I turn around, stick my butt out, and wiggle my hips for about two seconds.

The group gasps and then bursts out in laughter.

Immediately, I call for the music and make space for our heroine to step to the front of the stage.

With a huge smile, she dances...Beautiful scars and all.

Her self-consciousness takes a back seat to confidence and her beauty touches everyone in the room.

After a few moments they break into a spontaneous standing ovation as we all acknowledge her courage and beauty.

She walks off the stage, glowing. I am confident her life will be forever changed.

Next I bring Sharla back on stage and acknowledge her for her brilliance, beauty, and also for being the one in our partnership who does not have a slit in the back of her pants (or dress) as the case may be.

The moment I get to the back of the room, I turn into Clark Kent and feel a bit self-conscious... Erin quickly escorts me back to my room, where luckily I had brought an extra pair of slacks... just in case.

My boys are up in my hotel room, and when I show them the huge hole in the back of my pants, they are very impressed.

Now you may be wondering, really??? All that happens at a Client Attraction Summit? Isn’t the Summit supposed to be a business event about how to get more clients? Isn’t it supposed to be serious and a bit boring?

Yes, it is a business event about how to get more clients. But if I allowed the Summit to get boring, there is NO WAY I would have led this same event over 70 times.

In fact, I’ve been to my share of events that were so boring that the thought of stabbing myself with a pencil seemed like a good end to the boredom... I have vowed to do everything in our power to not make our events boring.

As for being a business event that helps you get clients... Yes it is!

Allowing yourself to be a vehicle of service to your clients (no matter how “good” or “bad” it makes you look) is one of the best things you can do to attract clients.

In fact, in spite of this “incredibly embarrassing (or sexy) moment,” it was our highest revenue generating event ever.

Was it the fact that I showed the group my butt? I don’t think so. I think that the huge success came from the fact that the group knew I was willing to do anything and everything in my power to facilitate a life-changing weekend for the whole group.

And life-changing it was...

Already, there have been many posts in our private Facebook group from people raving about the weekend and some from people who are already getting clients, including this one:

“Less than 24 hours since officially joining this community and already scheduled 3 new clients!!! It's amazing the magic that comes when you commit to your dreams and say YES!”

So my question for you is:

When have you put your own self-consciousness to the side to serve your clients? And what happened as a result?

Would love to read your comments below.

September 9, 2015 by Sharla Jacobs

How to Go From Lost Client to Loyal Client

It was 2003, when I first started my coaching and acupuncture practice...before Jesse and I started Thrive Academy.

I'm at a local networking event and I’m feeling pretty anxious about getting some new clients because the amount of money I was making wasn't even covering my bills.

I start talking to a woman who asks me what I do. I tell her I’m a licensed acupuncturist and she starts “leaning in." (You know that feeling when someone seems genuinely interested?)

Then she asks me, “How much do you charge?”

And everything comes to a screeching halt...

I sort of stand there like a deer caught in the headlights and then blurt out, “$60/session.”

I can tell she senses my awkwardness and just like that, it's all over...

No more leaning in and the connection we had begun to build is instantly gone.

She asks for my business card and hands me hers and then she walks away and, of course, I never hear from her again.

If you’re a coach or holistic practitioner and you’ve ever gone to a networking event, I bet this has happened to you at least once or twice.

After so many years of trial and error in our own businesses, Jesse and I have since taught over 25,000 coaches and practitioners how to gracefully transition from the potential of a lost client into an opportunity for a loyal client.

First of all, you should know that when this happens it’s actually a REALLY good sign. It’s likely they’re a good potential new client and interested in what you have to offer them. But if you handle the conversation poorly, you’ll lose them.

What’s the solution?

#1 Look for the Match

At the Client Attraction Summit we teach our signature system called, Heartselling™, which allows you to have an authentic conversation with a potential client that has them asking to work with you, rather than “hard-selling” them into a “yes”.

Taking the time to find out what they’re looking for is key to this successful approach. But when they ask, “How much do you charge?” before you’ve had the chance to see if you’re really a match, it can be awkward.

They don’t have all the information they need to make a decision…and you don’t want them making their decision solely on price.

The problem is that if you answer the question right away there isn’t any context for them to hear an answer that makes sense to their needs.

This is especially true for businesses that provide several offers or options for their services.

You have no basis for an answer and the potential client has no basis to make a decision.

If the person is just bargain shopping they’re not going to be a good client for you anyway, right?

However, this doesn’t mean the person CAN’T be a good client.

But if you answer their question about price right away, you may never know.

#2 Here’s how to go from lost client to loyal client

When you get this question too early in the conversation, here is what you can say: “It depends. I find that different people require different levels of support, so I’d like to discover a little bit more about what you’re looking for, so I can make the best recommendation.”

And then you schedule a free or low-cost consultation with them in which you can talk with them more deeply about what they’re looking for, where they are now and what’s missing for them in their life (or business or whatever is relevant to the service you provide).

You then share with them how you can help them, and make a recommendation based on your experience.

This is where the graceful transition from lost client to loyal client comes in.

With this approach you are able to find out if it’s a match for you and this potential client to work together. You’ll have ample time (and their full attention because they’ve committed to a session with you) to explain how you can help them, so that once they hear the price they can make an informed decision – one that is much more likely to be a “YES.”

#3 Now it’s your turn...

Can you see yourself answering a potential client in this way? How does it feel when you say these words?

It might feel awkward or evasive at first, but remember, you are simply opening the door for a more in depth conversation so that you can truly discover whether or not you can help this person.

Here are a few recommended action steps if you’re ready to give this a try...

1. Pick an upcoming networking event and circle it on your calendar

2. Practice saying the answer I’ve provided above out loud until you are completely comfortable with it

3. Role play this scenario with a mentor, buddy coach, or friend

4. As you’re getting ready to attend the event, release any attachment to the outcome. You don’t want to feel anxious or needy before you even walk in the door!

5. Relax and have the intention of being of service

Post a question or comment below to stay in community and share your experiences.

July 21, 2015 by Jesse Koren

3 Secrets for Moving Forward Even When You Don’t Feel Ready...

Do you ever feel like you’re just not ready?

To get your first client. To lead your first workshop. To write your book or Home Study Course. To fill a High End Group Program. To have your first $10,000 month...

If you don’t feel ready, you’re not alone. Whenever you are considering growing to the next level, it’s so easy to feel like you’re not ready.

Because if you were ready, wouldn’t you already be where you wanted to be?

Over the last 13 years Sharla and I (Jesse) have often struggled with feelings of “I’m not ready” or “I’m not prepared.”

Fortunately we didn’t let that feeling stop us from reaching our people. Along the way we’ve discovered some strategies that have helped us when we didn’t feel ready.

Strategies that have allowed us to continue to up our game and help over 50,000 people worldwide.

After working with thousands of gifted Coaches and Holistic Practitioners, we’ve discovered that two things are almost universally true:

You want to help more people and make more money.
Even though you want this badly, you don’t feel totally, 100% ready.

Everyone has ways of coping with their feelings of not being ready. But some strategies work better than others.

Here are some strategies that don’t work so well:

Raiding the refrigerator (substitute your addiction of choice)
Zoning out in front of your computer or tv
Getting a ton of certifications to prove that you are ready. (Sometimes, our clients with the highest credentials have felt the least ready.)

What can you do instead? Here are my 3 secrets for moving forward even when you don’t feel ready...

Secret #1: Commit Now (and trust you’ll be ready when the time comes)

We are about to set our schedule for our 2016 events. Am I ready for next year’s events? Hell, no. But, I do know that once I commit to the dates, the Universe then goes to work to prepare me for each event. I will get the magical blend of support and challenge that will help me be of the greatest service to the people who attend each event.

Let’s take this premise a step further. Recently, the night before a big Client Attraction Summit, one of our team members asked me if I was ready for the event. “No, I’m not ready,” I said. She looked a little concerned. “But I will be ready tomorrow morning at 9am.” As soon as I said that, I felt a rush of excitement shoot through me, as I mentally prepared to greet a couple hundred people from all over the US (and some from other countries) who were coming to take their life and business to the next level.

And ready I was.

This has happened enough times that I have come to realize that if I commit to something, I will be ready by the time it happens.

So, expect to NOT be ready at the time you commit... but expect to be ready by the time you get there. And, if what you’re committed to feels like a BIG leap, get ready for a powerful, growth-filled ride that will perfectly prepare you for what you’re leaping into.

Secret #2: Use breath and mantras to get ready

About 7 years ago, I was asked to be a guest speaker at a very large seminar, by far the largest group of people I had ever spoken in front of. I did not feel ready. No matter how much I practiced what I was going to say, I still didn’t feel ready. But, I had to show up and trust that I would be ready by the time I walked on stage, right?

The problem was that I wasn’t speaking until right before lunch, so I had to sit in the audience and wait for my turn to speak. Sweat is pouring out of every pore in my body and all I can think is: “I’m not ready for this. What if this time I really f*#% it up?”

So, I started saying to myself: “I love you no matter how this goes. I love you no matter how this goes. I love you no matter how this goes.” As my time for speaking approached, I was starting to feel a bit safer and a bit calmer.

But then, I discovered that my speaking slot had been moved until after lunch. My gremlins came back even louder than before. “You are definitely going to f&*% this up!”

So, I started another mantra: “Thy Will be Done.” I love this mantra, because it reminds me that there is an Intelligence in this Universe that goes WAY beyond my intelligence and the way I think things should go. After all, my heart beats, my breath goes in and out, flowers bloom, forests grow, and the Earth orbits around the sun... all, without my managing any of it.

By repeating the mantra “Thy Will Be Done,” I handed over control of how the event went to this benevolent intelligence.

Obviously, this Benevolent Intelligence wanted me to stew in my thoughts some more, because my speaking slot got moved AGAIN. So, I started another mantra. And another.

By the time, I finally spoke at about 5:30 in the evening, I had worked through my biggest fears. Without my fears sabotaging me, I delivered an incredible 20-minute talk and was mobbed by people afterward who wanted to get into the Client Attraction Summit. So that happened.

Secret #3: Find Someone Who Believes in You (and let them support you)

There was a time when I really didn’t believe in myself. I was 23. I had flown out to North Carolina to interview for a Wilderness Therapy Counselor position for at risk teens. The interview was a 24-hour interview, where I joined a group of 10 teenagers and their two counselors to experience life at camp. I envisioned a bunch of teens happily working together in the woods and sharing meals together.

Instead, it was the longest 24 hours of my life.

At 10pm, the group was still yelling swear words that echoed across the forest. So, the group counselors took the boys on a walk through the dark woods to settle them down. At 11pm, the boys were still hooting and hollering and saying some of the most disrespectful things I had ever heard. Eventually, Patrick physically restrained one of the boys who was out of control, and held him on the ground until he calmed down. Eventually the group calmed down enough to walk back to their tents and go to sleep.

As I lay awake that night, I knew I wasn’t ready for anything this. I was totally out of my league.

The next morning, I met with the Camp Director, Rhonda, for my final interview. “Everyone loves you here,” she said. I’d like to offer you the position.”

I was stunned. Exhausted. Constipated. And I felt like a deer in the headlights.

“Do you really think I can do this?” I asked.

“Yes, I do,” she said. “And we’re here to support you.”

I looked in her eyes and I knew that she meant it.

I knew that if I said “Yes” it was going to be really, really hard. And I knew that if I said “no” I would be selling out on the leader I so badly wanted to grow into.

I said “yes.”

Over those two years, I doubted myself a ton. There were days when swerving into oncoming traffic seemed easier than showing up for work. But, when it got really rough, I often thought about that day, sitting in Rhonda’s office where she told me that she believed in me. And I leaned into her support and the support of my co-counselors.

When I finally “graduated”, after the 2 years, I had an unshakable confidence in myself. I knew that if I could survive 2 years at that camp, that I could do anything.

This confidence has fueled our success at Thrive. Because I know that there is nothing that Sharla and I can’t fulfill on in our business and with the help of our team. And, I also know that you too, can do anything.

It takes having a community of people supporting you and believing in you, to have the success you want.

Hopefully, you have a LOT of people who believe in you, who are supporting your business and who are rooting for your success.

And, this is one of the biggest gifts we offer at our Client Attraction Summit. Our belief that you can have a successful business where you get paid well to support clients you love.

And, we would love to give you 3 Full Days of our undivided attention and support, to help you get there. This is why we occasionally open Full Scholarships to the Client Attraction Summit.

If you haven’t applied for yours, we invite you to do so now.

Click here to apply for Your Full Scholarship.

We’d love to support you.

Love and Prosperity,

Jesse

Let us know your thoughts in the comment box below.

July 9, 2015 by Sharla Jacobs

How to Deal with the Emotional Trauma from a Business Failure

Have you ever had a big failure in your business?

Maybe you felt embarrassed, scared, unsure of yourself...and it felt so bad you wanted to just crawl under a rock and never come out again?

While Jesse and I had our share of big business failures in the early years, I want to share a story of a big fall with our 4-year old son, Zachary, my mommy trauma and how this relates to your business.

I posted this in Facebook on the 4th of July:

Recovering from Mommy Trauma tonight...

We went to the Scotts Valley 4th of July parade and then the boys and I decided to skate to Sky Park, rather than drive, for the party and fireworks.

Zachary (4) and I take off and we're having a great time. Jesse is on foot and stayed behind with Jacob (7 today) while he skated along.

We turn left onto Blue Bonnet Road and the sidewalk gets a little steep.

Zach and I are holding hands and we pick up speed quickly, but we are able to pretty easily veer off into the dirt right next to the sidewalk.

Jesse sees this and says something about it seeming a little dangerous, but I feel confident--I know we need to be cautious, but know we can just veer off into the dirt whenever needed.

(You have to understand that I'm a really awesome roller skater at the roller rink. And Zach has become quite an awesome inline skater.)

We're holding hands and start skating slowly down the hill again. I'm doing all that I can to maintain a slower speed…

And then the sidewalk suddenly gets REALLY steep...

And then steeper. And now we're racing downhill and there is only the curb on the left and a curb on the right that separates the sidewalk and the landscaping.

We start picking up major speed. Zach cries, "Mommy, I'm scared!"

My heart is racing...but I think we can get through this if we can just keep our skates forward and stay calm until the sidewalk levels out.

Now we are picking up more speed. I keep looking for when the sidewalk will flatten out...or there will be a wide driveway we can turn into.

But at least we are both still heading forward...I feel scared that we're going to have a big crash, but keep doing everything I can to stay present, keep going forward and keep us safe…

Still racing downhill...

Now I've lost control, and I can't figure out what to do to slow us down.

If I use my stoppers, we will go flying forward. If we run into the curb, we are going to eat it big time…

Now I'm scared!

Then Zach loses his balance and suddenly I'm holding him up off the ground with my right hand while we continue to fly downhill.

His skate catches my skate and I trip.

I almost regain control but then he falls into a driveway.

I feel strong momentum as I fall, so I let go of his hand to keep from dragging him on the ground.

I finally catch myself with my right hand, do a half-roll and land on my butt. Then my head hits the ground, the skirt of my dress flies up over my chest and my hat and sunglasses go flying.

I quickly push my skirt back down, get up and skate over to Zach, who is 10 feet away.

He is sitting on his butt with skinned and bloody knees showing through his torn blue baseball socks, that he (thank God) had pulled up over his knees.

"My flag, Mommy!" He is worried about his little American flag he got during the parade.

I grab the flag quickly while people across the street start walking over.

"Are you okay?"

"I think so."

"We saw you hit your head."

"I think I'm okay." I was just worried about my babe.

The flag seems to soothe him.

I remain calm and try to distract him from seeing his bloody knees. We get up to skate slowly (the hill isn't as steep here and that damn curb between the sidewalk and landscaping is finally gone).

From the top of the hill to the fall was a very long 20 seconds…

(You know that moment after the emergency is over and you realize something big just happened?)

We skate another 10 feet and I see a shady walkway to the right. "Let's sit down here and wait for Daddy and Jacob."

We sit on the ground and he sees his bloody knees. He starts crying while he pulls apart one of the rips in his sock.

"I'll buy you a new pair of socks. I'm so sorry, baby. We were going too fast and I didn't know how to slow us down."

We talk about how it hurts while he cries.

Daddy and Jacob arrive and I share briefly about what happened. The car isn't far and I know we've got Arnica, Bacitracin and Band-aids in the glove box.

I suggest Jesse carry Zach to the car.

Fortunately, Band-aids cover up bloody knees. And when you can't see them, they don't hurt as bad.

"I'm so sorry, Zachary!" He gives me a hug and then goes back to Daddy's lap.

We finally end up at the park and Zach says he wants to go home...But it's Jacob's birthday. And I know we can move on and he'll feel better.

"Zachary, I'm so sorry we were going so fast. And I'm so sorry you were so scared and got hurt. Mommy made a big mistake. We will never go down that hill in skates ever again.

Will you forgive me?"

He nods his head yes.

Shortly after eating dinner, I invite Zach to play some games. He says yes and seems to have mostly forgotten about his knees.

The park and the fireworks were great…

Until we were driving home, stuck in post-fireworks traffic on the same street where we fell.

The kids are fine, almost asleep. But my heart starts racing again as I see the sidewalk we raced down. I'm having trouble breathing.

Jesse notices and after a short conversation about what I'm experiencing, he suggests I do some EFT when we get home.

I don't usually do EFT, but the anxiety is really intense. I keep hoping tears will come and release it as we drive home, but they don't. I try shaking and this doesn't help either.

I keep thinking about what I could have done differently. If I had asked Zach to use his stopper, since it's on the back, that might have slowed us down. That's the only thing I could think of.

With my hand on my heart, I quietly tell myself I did the best I could in the moment as we drive home.

We get home and after the kids are asleep, I ask Jesse to teach me how to do EFT again.

After about 20 minutes of talking, tapping and eventually forgiving myself, I feel that I've moved the emotional trauma out of my body.

I realize now that the hardest part was not the fall...that was actually a relief within two seconds of realizing we were okay.

The hardest part was the fear I felt as we were racing downhill at what must have been 20 mph. The lack of control in my body. The danger my little guy was in and the feeling of powerlessness because I couldn't figure out what to do.

I realize my overconfidence worked against me today and put my babe in danger. I feel SO incredibly grateful that we got out with only two skinned knees, a road rash on my hand and a little bump on my head.

No broken bones. No concussion. No stitches.

I'm grateful I have such an amazing and loving husband.
I'm grateful our angels took care of us.
And I'm grateful for the healing and empowerment work that is so readily available.

Writing this story was really therapeutic for me. And then to be witnessed by posting on Facebook and reading the 70+ comments filled with love and support was awesome.

Zachary wasn’t quite ready to get back in his rollerblades the next day. But two days later, he is back in them as if nothing happened!

When Jesse and I looked back at this story, we realized there were several insights into how to deal with emotional trauma from a business failure.

1. Be willing to take risks. While it’s true that my overconfidence got us into trouble, the willingness to take risks is essential to having a successful business.

You don’t always know what you’re getting yourself into and it will sometimes be scary. But when you’re not willing to take risks, you can’t learn and grow.

Zachary and I were just talking about pushing our limits minutes before we turned onto Blue Bonnet Road. Will you sometimes get bloody knees in your business? Yes.

But if your fear of bloody knees keeps you from taking risks, your business will stay limited to where it is now.

2. Ask for support. I’m so grateful I had the wherewithal to realize we needed support and to sit and wait for Jesse to come help us after the accident.

After you fall down, it’s essential to get support. We love witnessing our Thrive Members asking for support in the Thrive Membership Facebook Group because we know that without being supported and loved after a “failure,” it’s much harder to get up again. Human beings are NOT meant to deal with struggle and hardship alone. We need support.

3. Be resilient. My biggest concern was that Zachary wouldn’t want to get back up on his rollerblades again.

Fortunately, children are very resilient and he only needed a day to move through his trepidation.

How can you bounce back just as quickly?

Create a safe environment where you can experiment with new strategies.

If you’re new to strategies like using the free consultation formula, creating your first group program, getting speaking gigs or making offers at a workshop or live event, for example, it will be much easier to bounce back when you’ve got a safe environment.

At the Client Attraction Summit, we call this being “Sexy.”

We tell participants on Day 1 that it’s not going to be a perfect weekend. It’s going to be a Sexy weekend. So instead of saying “I’m so stupid!” when you mess something up you say, “I’m so Sexy!”

Just like Zachary, your willingness to get back up again and have fun is the only way you’ll be successful in the long run.

4. Use tools to deal with any upset. I was so grateful to have EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) when I realized I still had emotional trauma after the fall.

When you have a failure, it’s essential you fully deal with what happened and allow yourself to recover. Otherwise, you’ll take that failure into the next thing and you can get frozen with fear.

Give yourself permission to take care of yourself, to ask for support, to realize that you’re human and that it is your humanity that will ultimately draw the deepest connection between you and your community. This is how you’ll bounce back quickly from emotional traumas in your business.

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