At our recent Client Attraction Summit, I was once again inspired by the courage of many of the attendees who show up despite the fact that they don’t feel like they have “made it” yet in their business.
Many of them are brand new to business and feel like they are the only ones who don’t have the faintest idea of what they’re doing. Others have been in business for years and have had some success… but they have yet to get enough breathing room to relax.
Many operate on a “month-to-month” basis and feel frustrated that while some of their colleagues seem to have surpassed them, making way more money and showing up everywhere as an expert, they themselves can’t seem to get any traction.
There are even coaches and holistic practitioners who have experienced a lot of successes, but when it comes to raising their game up to the next level, they feel like it’s the first day of school all over again.
I can completely identify with that...
I remember going to my first event back in the early days where I walked in feeling like I must be the youngest, most insecure and least likely to succeed person in the room. And, even though we’ve mentored thousands of people, there are still times when my insecurities creep in and I suddenly feel young and small.
And so I can relate to when people show up to the Summit feeling excited about being there and scared at the same time.
Scared of being seen as a fraud or a nobody.
Scared of getting validation that the little voice inside their head is right when it whispers they don’t have what it takes to succeed.
Scared of failing yet again.
I can see the fear and lack of confidence in their body language during breaks, in the way they try to become invisible, in the quiver in their voice when they ask a question.
But this inspires me! Why?
Because I know I’m about to witness a major transformation…
I know that the same people who walk in scared to death to be there, leave our programs with a completely different mindset.
When they move from being someone who struggles to get 1-2 clients to earning more than $10K a month in their business, they start to speak, act, and in some cases, even dress differently.
Let me tell you, when you begin to build up your confidence, the world responds.
You start attracting more ideal clients, joint venture opportunities and speaking gigs which allows you to shine even more brightly.
Here’s something we like to say at Thrive, “Confidence goes both ways.”
Confidence comes from the inside, but it also comes from the outside.
When you build the skill set to grow your business, you start showing up differently in the world. And when you get results like enrolling new clients for higher rates, getting booked for multiple interviews, or filling your group program, that feedback sends your confidence through the roof!
And so again you show up differently in the world...and the world responds in an even bigger way.
It becomes this cycle that lifts you up.
The trick is to start.
How do you do that?
Here are a couple of strategies to get you started:
#1: I’m going to encourage you to take some advice from my mentor which is to take a complete break from talking poorly about yourself. Even if it seems like something tiny or insignificant. Basically anything that begins with the phrases, “I can’t” or “I’m not”. These aren’t words that inspire confidence!
By the way, I’m not just talking to the newbies here. ANY time you start to play a bigger game in life or in business, insecurities and old negative thoughts can come knocking. (Ask me how I know.) 🙂
Next, start to talk about yourself in the best possible light. Imagine you were consistently having $10,000 months. What would you say about yourself? What would you say about your business?
Start today. We dare you to share something truly great about yourself with someone you trust. If you’re already in the Thrive Community, post something great about yourself in the Thrive Membership Facebook Group.
Sometimes even saying one great thing about yourself takes tremendous courage. Will you do it? Will you build this muscle today?
And then simply notice how others act around you.
#2: Pick just one little piece about building your business that you feel less than confident about and become a master.
For instance, if you struggle to explain what you do at networking events or have a website that leaves people confused about what you have to offer, coming up with an amazing positioning statement can be a game changer.
This alone can be the boost to your confidence that allows others to engage with you in a completely different way.
Not sure how to create your own positioning statement? Read how to do it right here.
