Do you ever wish your nervousness would just go away???
Lots of Coaches and Holistic Practitioners beat themselves up for feeling nervous. They don’t want anyone to see how nervous they actually feel, because that would make them look like an amateur.
They don’t look for speaking engagements and they don’t talk to people about their business. They hide.
Or, if you do venture out of your safe home to promote your business, you tell yourself, “Calm down; take a deep breath; ground yourself…”
But the damn nervousness won’t go away.
So you STUFF it down.
And wonder if they can tell that you’re nervous...
They can. They see right through your confident mask and become bored by who you are pretending to be.
Fortunately, there is a way to handle your nervousness…
A way that will make you both endearing and respectable to your potential clients.
Use our simple, 3-step system to get over your nervousness.
Step 1. Embrace your nervousness.
When you feel nervous, it means that what you are about to do is IMPORTANT enough for you to care deeply about it.
Being nervous is a GOOD thing!
This morning, we begin our second event of the Six-Figure Speaker Program.
I feel excited and nervous. You might be thinking, “After leading nearly 200 live events, haven’t you gotten rid of your nervousness?”
No!!! I believe that the day I stop getting nervous before our events should be the day I quit (or at least get a really good massage, so I can reacquaint myself with my body and my emotions).
Being nervous means I REALLY care how this event goes.
And I’d better care…there are people flying from all over the country to attend who have collectively invested hundreds of thousands of dollars to be in the room.
But if that wasn’t enough pressure, there is my own internal pressure.
I REALLY want this to be the best event of this kind that I have ever led.
This is my “Olympics” and I want these four days to be the most powerful, life-changing four days they can possibly be.
So know your nervousness means you care deeply about what you’re about to do and we recommend you embrace it.
Step 2: Allow your nervousness to make you BIGGER.
Most people stuff down their nervousness, which makes them feel smaller.
Breathe into your nervousness and let the juicy sensations fill your body with life and expand your energy.
The bigger your energy is, the more people you can impact.
Step 3. Share your nervousness.
Your nervousness is endearing. Hiding your nervousness is robbing your people of you.
Sharing your nervousness (along with your expertise) makes you lovable.
At a recent Client Attraction Summit, I found feeling myself more nervous than usual.
So I told the group I was feeling nervous.
But here’s the key:
You don’t want to share your nervousness in a way that has people feel sorry for you.
In this case, I didn’t want all the mothers in the room coming up on stage to give me a hug and tell me, “There, there, it will be okay.”
So it’s important to share your nervousness in a way that still positions you as the expert.
I said something like:
“Even though I’ve led this event more than 70 times, and COUNTLESS people have told me that this event has changed their life, I am still feeling nervous.”
As soon as I said that, my nervousness stopped distracting me and my energy went to a whole new level.
If you haven’t led your event 70 times and you don’t have countless success stories and testimonials, you can still use this “Even Though” Template to maintain a position of respect.
For example, you could say:
“Even though what I am about to share with you are teachings that I have personally experienced and refined over the last 20 years, I still feel nervous about sharing them with you.”
The bottom line is that your nervousness, if harnessed powerfully, holds the key to you becoming an even more inspiring leader.
