Today, we’re going to share a concept that our Personal Development mentors will disagree with. Yet, if you follow our advice, you’ll find yourself not only feeling much better about yourself, but you’ll also be accomplishing your goals much more quickly.
I (Jesse) remember the day I became a Yellow Belt in Tae Kwon Do. I was 10 years old. Kiyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!!! I cracked that board in half. I felt invincible.
Minutes later, I was changing back into my regular clothes and two younger kids came up to me: “You are SO strong!!! How did you get to be so strong???” Insteadof taking in their compliments I said, “You think I’m strong now; wait until I’m 11.”
This was my first memory of the belief that has run my life:
“Nothing I do is EVER enough.”
On one hand, I’m grateful for this belief. It’s one of the reasons we’ve been so successful.
Because we are constantly “aiming for the stars and hitting the moon.”
For example, we’ve led nearly 200 events and at least 50 of these events have produced $100,000 or more in sales (in one weekend). Most people would be THRILLED with these stats.
But when this belief is running me, I won’t celebrate until we finally have a Million-Dollar Event.
The self-development industry has fed this belief that “Nothing I do is EVER enough.”
Many of my mentors told me:
“You’re not thinking BIG enough!” And, “You’re playing too small!”
So every day, I put way more on my To Do List than I could possibly accomplish.
And despite accomplishing more in my average day than most people accomplish in a week, I’ve ended many days with an unsatisfied sigh…
Often, I started the following day feeling overwhelmed by the insurmountable challenges I’ve established for myself.
This reminds me of when we used to play the Darien Blue Devils, one of the best soccer teams in the country. When we took the field, we KNEW we had no chance. We were playing an UNWINNABLE GAME.
Yet we took the field anyway. And we played our little hearts out. And we got creamed, 11-0.
Luckily, we only played them once per year. Imagine how you would feel if you did this to yourself every day!
Most Coaches and Holistic Practitioners do one of two things:
1) They set themselves up with UNWINNABLE GAMES and expect themselves to do way more than they could possibly do.
OR
2) They don’t set goals at all and let life take them by storm.
Either approach is devastating because it completely knocks the wind out of you and makes you feel like you’re losingand will NEVER catch up. ENOUGH!!
Fortunately, there is an alternative approach. This paradigm shifting approach will lead you quickly and joyfully to your success in three Easy and LIBERATING steps.
It’s time to start playing a different type of game… a WINNABLE GAME!
Here are the 3 Keys to Accomplishing Your Goals:
1.Create a Clear, Winnable Game
Choose three specific things you want to accomplish every day.
They don’t need to be big, but they do need to be clear and specific.
You need to be able to evaluate whether you’ve succeeded or failed at accomplishing them at the end of your day.
And, if you’re having a Heartselling™ Conversation with a potential client, it’s a great idea to call it a WIN because you HAD the conversation, NOT only when you got a new client. (Developing this habit alone will help you start attracting the right clients.)
-Jesse Koren
2.Be Willing to Lower Your Standards
I hope I don’t get banned by the personal development gurus for saying this:
If you’re continually losing your games, then LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. The experience and feeling of losing will soon become a habit after a while. The same goes for winning.
The main way to develop the habit of winning is to… WIN!!!
Winning will create it’s own momentum and soon you will be accomplishing things you’ve never imagined.
–Jonathan Kozol
3.Celebrate Small Accomplishments like you just won an Olympic Gold Medal
At our Six Figure Speaker event this past weekend, one of our members, Scott Sargeant, shared his amazing story.
In 1999, Scott was ranked Top 10 in the US for the Hammer Throw and was on track to make it into the 2000 Olympics. Just months before the Olympics, he fell down a flight of concrete stairs and was instantly paralyzed from the neck down. His doctors said he would never walk again. He literally couldn’t move a finger. But, using the visualization techniques he used to become an elite athlete, he shocked his doctors and walked out of the hospital 6 weeks later. You can learn more about Scott at www.formerquad.com
Compared to this victory he told us nothing he accomplishes feels big enough or worthy enough of celebration. He keeps setting himself up with UNWINNABLE games and feeling like he is constantly losing.
I invited him to celebrate even the most ridiculously small victories in his life. I challenged him to walk back to his chair, and if he made it successfully to his chair without tripping, to celebrate his success like he had just won a Gold Medal.
He walked back to his chair (and did not trip).
When he got there, he let out a loud “Whoop!” And the entire group of Six Figure Speakers stood up and cheered and celebrated.
It was both totally ridiculous and totally freeing at the same time. The freedom comes when you stop expecting yourself to be superhuman all the time and you celebrate your small victories.
Now it’s your turn to use these three keys for accomplishing your goals and set yourself up for success.
Will you try it?
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